There is a small but important distinction between the length of the year of and the line between one year and the next. One emerges from… — There is a small but important distinction between the length of the year of and the line between one year and the next. One emerges from nature’s reality, and the other is more arbitrarily decided by humans. The length of the year emerges from the time that it takes for…

In the tantra community, not unlike other self-help and self-improvement practices, there’s a lot of talk and feeling into one’s yeses and… — In the tantra community, not unlike other self-help and self-improvement practices, there’s a lot of talk and feeling into one’s yeses and nos. For tantra people in particular, the modifier ‘full-bodied,’ as in a full-bodied yes or full-bodied no, is often seen as the most true version of one’s own…

In the last few days two people I know well and respect have used the term “white-hot” to describe the most important parts of their… — In the last few days two people I know well and respect have used the term “white-hot” to describe the most important parts of their respective stories. I don’t hear that term often, and I choose not to believe in coincidences, so I’m unpacking this expression to find what I…

This weekend is the first Coachella since 2019. Due to the unfortunate timing of the originally scheduled 2020 Coachella in April 2020… — This weekend is the first Coachella since 2019. Due to the unfortunate timing of the originally scheduled 2020 Coachella in April 2020, just weeks after lockdowns began in the US, it has a full three years since the last Coachella. …

I am about halfway through Dan Gilbert’s Stumbling on Happiness and already sensing that it will be an impactful read. At the halfway point… — I am about halfway through Dan Gilbert’s Stumbling on Happiness and already sensing that it will be an impactful read. At the halfway point Gilbert has yet to hit a single punch line. Given how he framed the book in introduction, I’m not sure if he ever will. But already…

I wrote this yesterday and am publishing today to be on schedule. Yesterday got even crazier, and all of that was needed. — I wrote this yesterday and am publishing today to be on schedule. Yesterday got even crazier, and all of that felt needed. I thought I had so much profundity to share after this week of solemn reflection and barely cleared hurdles. Indeed, my Apple note with essay ideas was brimming…

It’s not always helpful to believe reality. Let’s take dating as a brown man as an example. — It’s not always helpful to believe reality. Let’s take dating as a brown man as an example. As a brown man of South Asian descent, it is reality that there is a bias against me in dating. That bias is extreme in online dating, but also exists IRL. Both conscious…

Exposure to mental illness and abuse is a rough way to start life. A lot has been challenging for me that probably wouldn’t have been had… — Exposure to mental illness and abuse is a rough way to start life. A lot has been challenging for me that probably wouldn’t have been had that not been my childhood. For all those challenges, it seems I have thrived, at least in some areas of life. Over these past…